Tag Archives: expectations

Finding my place in the family of things

National Poetry Month, Day 28  //  In my twenties, newly out of college and on my own, starting a new career, finding my way in the world, I had learned that I had to be good, very good, if I were to amount to anything in life. My parents, particularly my father, had taught me […]

Two lessons from the Mayflower

The day on which I write this is the anniversary 395 years ago of the sailing of the ship Mayflower for the New World. It was chartered by a group of merchants known as “the London Adventurers” and carried 102 settlers. I can only guess what visions and dreams motivated those Adventurers and settlers. I’d […]

On the power of gratitude

It’s a difficult and costly thing, trying to live up to the expectations of others: difficult, because those expectations are often unspoken and impossibly high; costly, because trying it draws us toward living someone else’s life at the expense of our own, which in the end leads to a kind of death. My father taught […]